San Francisco Bay Area | Seattle | Los Angeles
Therapy for Queer Asians
who seek liberation from the expectations of others, from self-imposed expectations, from the expectations of our society, from cultural expectations, from people-pleasing tendencies, and from doing everything for others but nothing for yourself.
Welcome, I’m Dr. Wonbin.
I specialize in helping LGBTQ+ Asians struggling with their identities and relationships to show up more authentically and courageously.
You may be constantly asking yourself:
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As a queer Asian person who came out later in life, I understand all too well how difficult it is to come out to your family who does not seem to understand anything other than the heteronormative life. I can help you gain more clarity on what you want relationally as a queer Asian person and make autonomous decisions that are self loving and self respecting.
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Each holiday comes and goes, and you are wondering how long you can hide the happiest part (or the most challenging part) of your life from your loved ones. You are wondering how hiding it will impact your relationship with your partner for the long haul. I help queer Asians build courage and self-love to get to a place where they can speak and walk in their own truth.
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Some upward of 60% of Americans grow up in religious families. This percentage may be higher in Asian American communities. As a queer Asian person, if you had the added layer of religion to your queer experience, you might or might not have experienced extreme loneliness, isolation, and spiritual violence throughout your life. Now that you are an adult, you are wondering how you can overcome years of religious trauma. I’m here to help queer Asians who grew up in religious environments deconstruct their faith, values, and religious teachings that caused self-hate and self-doubt so that they can rebuild the foundation of their lives with values congruent with who they are.
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If you are a queer/trans Asian person who live in a bigger body, you’ve probably heard criticism about your body too many times. That has impacted your self-esteem and self-hatred towards your own body. I’m here to help you deconstruct social and cultural expectations of beauty and get you to a place where you can celebrate and love your body.
Welcome, I’m Dr. Wonbin, an SF Bay Area queer Asian therapist. I help queer Asian Americans and immigrants become more authentic and courageous in their queer identities and their relationships with themselves and their loved ones.
Hello, and welcome! I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist in SF Bay Area and a queer Asian immigrant who has gone through the experiences of coming out and living authentically in my South Korean, immigrant context. I know what it’s like to have a paralyzing fear of rejection and abandonment because of my queer identity/relationship. Over 8 years of my practice as a marriage and family therapist, I’ve worked with many queer Asian Americans and immigrants who struggle with their queer/gender identities in their cultural and familial contexts and have helped them become more authentic and courageous in their relationships with themselves and their loved ones.
As a queer, Asian first-generation immigrant therapist, I understand the impact of cultural identities, societal pressures, and the challenges of integrating multiple aspects of who you are. I’m here to honor your unique journey, offer a compassionate space to explore your feelings, and guide you toward self-discovery, healing, and empowerment.
How I Can Support You
I specialize in working with individuals and couples from diverse backgrounds and identities, including:
LGBTQ+ Asian Couples & Individuals: Navigating love, identity, and societal challenges.
Interracial Couples in which one partner is Asian: Bridging cultural differences and strengthening your connection.
Polyamorous Relationships: Creating clear communication and healthy boundaries for non-monogamous couples.
Religious Trauma: Healing from guilt, shame, and the pain of religious experiences that no longer serve you.
Gender Transitions: Supporting couples through gender identity changes, and helping you rebuild intimacy and trust.
Asian American Experiences: Navigating the complexities of identity, intergenerational trauma, family dynamics, and cultural expectations.
Every relationship is different, and I honor the unique complexities that come with your journey. In therapy with me, we will create a safe, non-judgmental space for you to explore your emotions, desires, and challenges without fear of rejection. Whether you're working through personal issues, relational difficulties, or navigating larger life transitions, I'm here to walk beside you every step of the way.
What to Expect in Therapy
When we work together, you can expect a collaborative, compassionate, and solution-focused approach to therapy. I believe in treating your story with care and curiosity, helping you interrupt harmful patterns, and creating lasting change. Here’s what you can expect from therapy with me:
A Safe, Judgment-Free Space: You will always feel supported, heard, and validated for who you are.
Exploration & Understanding: Together, we will explore your relationships, identities, and experiences with curiosity and compassion.
Personalized Guidance: Whether you're navigating relationship struggles, cultural identity, or personal growth, I'll tailor our work to your specific needs.
Building Healthier Relationships: I’ll help you develop better communication, emotional intimacy, and deeper understanding within yourself and with your loved ones.
Holistic Healing: We’ll address both the emotional and relational dynamics that shape your life, while embracing your unique cultural and sexual identities.
Why Choose Me?
A Relational Approach: I’m not just focused on “fixing” problems—I work with you to understand the deep-rooted patterns in your relationships and within yourself. We’ll create lasting change by uncovering the underlying stories that shape your experiences.
Inclusive & Affirming: As a queer therapist, I deeply understand the challenges of navigating multiple identities. Whether you're part of the LGBTQ+ community, a polyamorous relationship, or have experienced religious trauma, I offer an inclusive, non-judgmental space to explore and heal.
Culturally Competent: As a first-generation immigrant, I respect the complexities of navigating multiple cultural identities. I’ll honor your background and experiences, recognizing the intersectionality of your journey.
Empathetic and Supportive: I’ve been described by my clients as kind, compassionate, and a thoughtful listener. My goal is to create a space where you can be your most authentic self.
Specialties
Gender, Sexual, and Racial Identity Exploration
Religious Trauma and Deconstructing Faith
Intimacy Issues & Relational Sex Therapy
Polyamory and Open Relationships
Interracial Couples and Mixed Sexual Orientation Relationships
Gender Transitions and Supporting Couples Through Change
Healing from Family Dynamics and Intergenerational Trauma
Every relationship is different, and I honor the unique complexities that come with your journey. In therapy with me, we will create a safe, non-judgmental space for you to explore your emotions, desires, and challenges without fear of rejection. Whether you're working through personal issues, relational difficulties, or navigating larger life transitions, I'm here to walk beside you every step of the way.
Virtual Therapy to Clients in SF Bay Area, Seattle
Throughout California, Washington, and Florida
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Queer Couples Therapy
Find the cycles of conflicts and disconnection, grow in your understanding of your partner, and discover how you can re-connect and re-engage in your relationships again.
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Religious Trauma Therapy
Heal from religious trauma with compassionate therapy. Process past wounds, rebuild trust in yourself, and find freedom in your beliefs. Restore peace, identity, and emotional well-being on your healing journey.
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Body/Self Image Liberation Therapy
Our society tells us what we are supposed to look like whether you are a trans person, an Asian woman, or a gay man. We can explore the societal pressure forcing us to change who we are and discover what we want.
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Trans + Gender Expansive Therapy
We offer support for your journey of self-discovery, acceptance, and healing. Work through challenges, build confidence, and develop a positive, authentic relationship with your true self.