Therapy for Queer Asians
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A therapeutic space for those who seek liberation from the expectations of others, from self-imposed expectations, from the expectations of our society, from cultural expectations, from people-pleasing tendencies, and from doing everything for others but nothing for yourself.
A Place to Finally Feel Free
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Therapy for Queer Asians
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A Place to Finally Feel Free • Therapy for Queer Asians •
You may be constantly asking yourself:
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As a queer Asian person who came out later in life, I understand all too well how difficult it is to come out to your family who does not seem to understand anything other than the heteronormative life. I can help you gain more clarity on what you want relationally as a queer Asian person and make autonomous decisions that are self loving and self respecting.
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Each holiday comes and goes, and you are wondering how long you can hide the happiest part (or the most challenging part) of your life from your loved ones. You are wondering how hiding it will impact your relationship with your partner for the long haul. I help queer Asians build courage and self-love to get to a place where they can speak and walk in their own truth.
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Some upward of 60% of Americans grow up in religious families. This percentage may be higher in Asian American communities. As a queer Asian person, if you had the added layer of religion to your queer experience, you might or might not have experienced extreme loneliness, isolation, and spiritual violence throughout your life. Now that you are an adult, you are wondering how you can overcome years of religious trauma. I’m here to help queer Asians who grew up in religious environments deconstruct their faith, values, and religious teachings that caused self-hate and self-doubt so that they can rebuild the foundation of their lives with values congruent with who they are.
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If you are a queer/trans Asian person who live in a bigger body, you’ve probably heard criticism about your body too many times. That has impacted your self-esteem and self-hatred towards your own body. I’m here to help you deconstruct social and cultural expectations of beauty and get you to a place where you can celebrate and love your body.
You wonder if you'll ever have the chance to truly be yourself and build meaningful, genuine relationships.
You forget what it was like to feel like you.
You wonder if there’s something wrong with you—like you’re broken, like no one truly understands what it’s like to be you.
You’ve spent so much of your life trying to navigate expectations—family, culture, society—all while figuring out who you are and where you belong. It’s exhausting.
You feel like you have to wear a mask, afraid that if people really saw you—all of you—they might not accept you.
You feel constantly silenced in a culture or a family system that values heteronormativity above all else.
All you want is to feel free to be yourself—to live with confidence, without shame or self-doubt weighing you down. You know it’s time to let go of the guilt and the inner critic that plays in your head day and night, but you don’t know how.
You’ve tried the self-help books, maybe even therapy, but nothing has truly addressed your struggles in a way that makes you feel seen—as a Queer Asian person navigating all these layers of identity, expectation, and belonging.
You’re ready for something different. You’re ready to heal, to grow, and to step into the life and relationships you deserve.
This is where your journey begins—to healing, to living authentically, and to building the meaningful relationships you deserve. You’re not alone, and your path forward starts here.
Hi, I’m Dr. Wonbin.
I am here to help you navigate one of the most difficult journeys you may be on in your life - to be your authentic self beyond the shame that the heteronormative Asian culture has put on many of us.
Many of my queer Asian clients have spent their lives walking a tightrope—balancing cultural expectations, family obligations, and personal identity. You may deeply understand why you feel stuck, hyper-aware of the ways you’ve tried to make things work, yet still feel like true freedom, connection, and ease are just out of reach.
Maybe you’ve learned to shrink parts of yourself to keep the peace. Maybe you’ve internalized shame around your identity, your desires, or your needs. Maybe you’ve tried therapy before but didn’t quite feel understood. I want you to know: you don’t have to navigate this alone.
As a therapist, I offer a space where nothing is off-limits— family secrets, power dynamics, queerness, trauma, relationships, sex, and religion. We can talk about the things you were taught to push aside. Our work will help you untangle the past and uncover how cultural conditioning, past relationships, familial relationships and expectations, and unspoken rules may still be shaping the way you move through the world.
Together, we’ll explore new ways of being—ones that allow you to show up authentically in your relationships, your work, and your life. I especially love working with individuals and couples who are not afraid to dig deeper in a safe space even if it may be painful at first.
I show up as my full, authentic self in every session because I know how important it is to feel safe, seen, and understood—especially when the world hasn’t always made space for you and you have felt silenced throughout your whole life.
If you’re ready to step into a life that is truly yours, I’m here to walk that path with you.
| Queer Asian Therapist | LGBTQ+ Mental Health Therapist | Queer Couples Therapist |
Specializing in:
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Relationship Trauma
You have experienced attachment trauma, inter partner violence, or adverse childhood, and you are not sure how you can your power back. Let’s uncover what is in the way of taking your life back and start building a life that you really want.
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Queer Identity Exploration
You have been wondering, and now you are ready to explore your queer and gender identity to live to your most authentic self. I will help you deconstruct cis-heteronormativity and rebuild the relationship with yourself and how you see yourself.
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Exploring Polyamory
You and your partner are contemplating opening your relationship and aren’t sure where to start or if polyamory is for your relationship. Let me help you and your partner learn how to have open, safe communications to set yourselves for success.
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Religious Trauma Recovery
Whether you are queer, divorced, or just hurt by the church, I can help deconstruct the previously held beliefs that deeply hurt you and have brought you pain. Together we can rebuild a new life of values and beliefs congruent with who you are.
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Therapy for Parents of LGBTQ+ Children
Your child has just come out to you, and you want to be supportive, but you aren’t sure where to start. I can help you create concrete goals on how to support your kid and help them thrive in their emotional and physical development.
Gay Asian Couples Therapist | Queer Asian Therapist | Religious Trauma Therapist
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Queer Couples Therapy
Find the cycles of conflicts and disconnection, grow in your understanding of your partner, and discover how you can re-connect and re-engage in your relationships again.
| $250/50-min |
LGBTQ+ Individual Therapy
Find your healing in a space where all of your being is welcome. As a queer therapist, I offer a space where you can work on what is important to you, your relationship, and your life.
| $250/50-min |
Religious Trauma Recovery Intensive
You can request a 3-hour intensive session for religious trauma recovery. You and the clinician will spend 3 hours in one day to extensively process and work on one or more goal to get you better faster.
| $1275 per 3-hour intensive appointment |