Gay, Lesbian, and Queer Couples Therapist

in-person in SF Bay Area | Telehealth in California, Washington, & Florida

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Couples Therapy for Queer Asian Relationships

Queer Asian Couples Therapist in SF Bay Area | Telehealth in California, Washington, and Florida

Feeling Disconnected in Your Relationship?

Even when you love each other, being in a queer relationship can feel overwhelming — especially for Asian American couples navigating cultural pressure, family expectations, and unspoken trauma.

Are you experiencing:

  • Constant miscommunication or conflict cycles?

  • Emotional distance or avoidance during intimacy?

  • Shame, shutdown, or fear around sex and touch?

  • Tension about being “out” with family or community?

  • Repeating relational patterns that feel stuck or painful?

The Unique Challenges of Queer Asian Relationships

As a queer Asian therapist, I see how my clients identities shape how they give and receive love. In my practice, I work with queer couples navigating:

  • Internalized homophobia and sexual shame

  • Intergenerational and religious trauma

  • Cultural values like filial piety, silence, and respectability

  • Racialized dating dynamics and body image concerns

  • Pressure to conform to heteronormative or cis-normative expectations

  • Family rejection & intergenerational trauma that affects the ways couples connect

  • Repetitive conflict that leaves you feel shut down

MY Approach to Couples Therapy:

I integrate three evidence-based models of therapy:

  • Internal Family Systems (IFS) – to explore how past wounds and protective parts show up in the relationship

  • Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) – to rebuild emotional safety and secure bonding

  • Gottman Method Couples Therapy – to improve communication, conflict resolution, and connection

All sessions are trauma-informed, queer-affirming, and grounded in an anti-oppressive lens.