Couples Therapy for Queer Asian Couples

Queer Asian Couples Therapist in SF Bay Area | Telehealth in California, Washington, and Florida

Feeling Disconnected in Your Relationship?

Even when you love each other, being in a queer relationship can feel overwhelming — especially for Asian American couples navigating cultural pressure, family expectations, and unspoken trauma.

Are you experiencing:

• Constant miscommunication or conflict cycles?

• Emotional distance or avoidance during intimacy?

• Shame, shutdown, or fear around sex and touch?

• Tension about being “out” with family or community?

• Repeating relational patterns that feel stuck or painful?

The Unique Challenges of Queer Asian Relationships

As a queer Asian therapist, I see how my clients identities shape how they give and receive love. In my practice, I work with queer couples navigating:

• Internalized homophobia and sexual shame

• Intergenerational and religious trauma

• Cultural values like filial piety, silence, and respectability

• Racialized dating dynamics and body image concerns

• Pressure to conform to heteronormative or cis-normative expectations

• Family rejection & intergenerational trauma that affects the ways couples connect

• Repetitive conflict that leaves you feel shut down

My Approach to Couples Therapy:

I integrate three evidence-based models of therapy:

• Internal Family Systems (IFS) – to explore how past wounds and protective parts show up in the relationship and to learn how to care for each part of ourselves and relationships

• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) – to rebuild emotional safety and secure bonding and to go beyond our protective secondary feelings, such as anger

• Gottman Method Couples Therapy – to improve communication, conflict resolution, and connection

• Solution-focused Brief Therapy — to understand your already existing skills that have served you well and to stop the unhelpful patterns that keep you stuck

I provide couples therapy that is trauma-informed, queer-affirming, and grounded in an anti-oppressive lens. I take a no-nonsense approach to relationship therapy where I help you see the parts both of you are playing in your relational patterns that have kept you stuck in a negative loop and help you break the cycles.