Many eldest daughters develop perfectionism and people-pleasing tendencies, putting other people’s needs ahead of their own. You may be worried about getting laid off, but you still fork out a large portion of your paycheck to cover your parents’ mortgage. You may intervene when your siblings and parents are in conflict. You may be the first responder to every “emergency,” even when it costs you sleep, bandwidth, or peace.

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